To love

Recently I've been inspired to think and review on my perception towards love and relationship. This inspiration came from me falling in love. It has propelled me to look into myself and others for answers. Answers to questions I've previously answered before. Although it has only been a year since my last failed attempt in a relationship, I have seen changes within my ideals towards love and relationship. It's time to recalibrate.

Here I will write what I've learned to understand about love and relationship. It's going to be a long one. Although not complete, it serves as a foundation. So let's begin.

I always seek answers scientifically, spiritually and emotionally. Spiritually meaning metaphysically. Emotionally meaning my instincts and intuition. Scientifically meaning from the origin.

Love, so far as I've learned, is abstract. To each person love is unique. The way they interpret, express and perceive are based on their unique experiences and reference. It's a feeling, it's a thought, it's an action. Love is build around a desire. A desire to grow. To expand. To create.

Relationships are build through connection. Through humanity. Love is the energy. The more you love yourself, the better you are at understanding yourself and others. Love is universal and personal.

The relationship between a man and a woman is based on the instinctive drive to populate and educate. Monogamy is the norm. It is a social standard. But most importantly it's also a personal choice. One can also choose polygamy. The interesting thing is that if one is self seeking then one will practice monogamy For polygamy, the opposite is true. Marriage is not what binds relationship together, it's the parties involved and their choice that determines the result.

Love, romance, sex. 3 key elements that is required to form a beautiful relationship. The romance will enrich the relationship of love and sex will bind it all together. I personally believe that an equal balance is preferred but nothing is perfect. Although perfection cannot be achieved but it can be pursued. That usually ends up with the best result.

Self. The main reason why most people fail in love is because they themselves do not understand or work towards understanding what it is and what it means to them. How can one share a glass of water if the glass is empty?

Lover. Is not you. You can influence them but you can't control them. You may be a part of them but never completely them. You might share the same feeling but in separate different ways. Never depend on them for love but always love as best as you can.

My opinion on what a beautiful relationship should look like. Let me paint you a picture. 2 individuals, commits to themselves and each other. To grow, to learn, to love. Free from conditions. Each individual decides their own actions. Given the freedom to act upon and trusted that their actions will result in a happy and desirable result. This is not for those who are insecure. This is only for the little few who are sure they will love and be loved.

Sadly, it is all to common to see love wasted, denied and abused. The reason is because little have learned to appreciate. Appreciating self and lover. Appreciation is the key to a successful, long term, happy relationship. It Works hand in hand with devotion, faith and loyalty.

I personally practice monogamy or should I say, aiming for it. I want to fill my relationship with love, sex and romance. I want to shower my lover with loving gestures that pleasures her senses. I will give all that I can and all that I am because love is worth it. To love is to be love.