Lightness

I've read a book,

The summary of the story: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0096332/plotsummary

Also, it is available in movie, and of course, free e-books.

Lightness, in terms of a relationship, is a state of zero commitment, no burdens and not tied down by the other. It usually comes in forms of seeking pleasure rather than staying for a person. That says, one night stand, friends with benefits, etc. All in all, meaning sexually active but unattached. 

Lightness: good or bad? 

Youth, it stirs me to explore and to experiment. They naturally don't usually come hand in hand with commitment. Curiosity drives us everywhere, and the forward velocity itself is rather unstoppable. It is like given a hard push on the back from the edge, and we fall with the gravity's acceleration, an acceleration not ours to take charge of. Thus we let it overrides our bodies as we go along and fit in with its momentum. We fall fast, but at the same time, we fall hard. Let's do the maths here, shall we? No, I kid you. But it's countable. And you can see that a well-controlled momentum definitely exerts less force (impulsive force as we crash) if compared to momentum led by the gravitational force. So, is it good or bad, in terms of experimenting with falling?

I have been asking people around lately, 'Are you committed to your current relationship?' Let me explain. Committed here I would mean, ready for a long run relationship. Do I sound evil now? I do feel a little evil. I get a lot of yes. Probably the only no comes from me. Honestly, that actually hits me hard, on my head. The society sees being committed as morally good, and uncommitted the otherwise. I am a bad person, morally, and in the eyes of the society. Only because majority take being committed as good, why does the minority suffer the being labelled as 'wrong'? Let me take you back to our moral lessons. I remember we had all the true and false Q&A. A child who plays truant is taken as a rebellious kid. That is because majority of the adults and the society take playing truant a bad behavior. But, Einstein played truant all the time too. Why did the society overlook his past childhood, but only glorify what he had given to us until today? A person is a whole, shouldn't we all learn to accept one wholly, instead of just partially? In that case, was Einstein at fault for skipping schools and lessons because he was an unbelievable smart ass and all the subjects in school were just a waste of time? Why is committed right, but not being committed wrong? A commitment should not be forced. It should be a choice. A choice where both being committed and not committed are taken just as equally as one another. In this case, I figure, the society still doesn't approve of lightness. So, is it good or bad?

Yesterday, a friend looked at me with cautious eyes and questioned me, 'So you never thought of settling down?' My answer was a contradiction, to my surprise. Here, I blabber about not wanting to be committed, but I know somehow, everyone wants a stable relationship at the end of their stories. That is when lightness starts disappearing, giving its way to responsibilities. By then, lightness becomes unbearable, because we eventually want a person who doesn't just come and go. We want a person who stays for who we are, a person whom we wake up every morning to. When lightness gives way, it is time maturity starts budding.

What do you think,

Shae