Lover's Play

Guten Abend,

I was sitting right in the middle of the back passenger's seat like I usually do when there was only 3 travelling in the car. The other 2 were my parents, my lovely parents. At one moment I kept quiet, clearing my head, just mesmerizing the views, while listening to their conversations. I chuckled softly and smiled contentedly to myself, while they were arguing like children over my mother's little habits.

'Why do you keep hitting your hand with your knuckles?'

'My hand feels sore mah! Do you think I want to hit it?'

She is a restless woman, while my father a more composed man. Another funny thing that I noticed is when my mother kept turning the car wipers on and off when she wasn't actually even driving. She was sitting at the front passenger's seat and just happened to have had a pair of restless hands. (I don't even know how my father could just calmly drive and let her restlessness took over, because I just can't.)

They have been happily married for 33 years. I could have never been happier if it wasn't for my parents' love and affection. I was once asked, 'How do you think you parents manage their marriage?' I answered, 'Because my father loves to tease my mother a lot.' I am not sure if my answer was taken seriously back then, but I could never answer it differently. Ask me again, I would still say the same. My father does tease my mother a lot, and this is how he portrays and conveys his love and affection.

I have once been in a relationship with a very serious man. I looked up very much to him, and I still do. I admire the aura of seriousness that he gives out and I came to respect him a lot. That was which gave way to my deep affection. But it was tough to survive in such circumstances. I couldn't be described as 'fragile'. But with him, I was nothing, merely a thin piece of glass. It weighed me down and it was very hard to keep up with. After all, I'm not born with a clown's qualities and I had to be a clown in that relationship. Teases were almost impossible, because he took everything so seriously that I wouldn't even dare make a spontaneous silly joke. Every steps and every words needed deep and thorough considerations.

That was pretty much when I started to think that a lover's play is an essential quality in holding up a relationship. A friendly tease portrays how we are comfortable with each other. A gentle pat on the head is a sign of affection and protection, while letting the lady feel safer and a little smaller in the hands of the man. (I'm pretty sure every girls have the thought of just wanting to feel little once in a while.) A pinch in the cheek, a funnily cute bro-fist, 'Go die' that doesn't literally means asking him or her to die...

I guess lovers just need a little fun, because that's what it is meant for right? If you can love happily, what else is more important than just living in the fun? 

Poke poke,

Shae