Blaming it on Love and Relationships

Lighting you up,

As a girl, dramas and films (Taiwanese, Japanese, Korean, American, British...) made me fantasize about love and relationships. Have you ever watched the movie 'Serendipity'? Exactly, that was my love fantasy. My innocence could appear laughable but it is now to me, respectable. I respect the childish innocence that was once living in me because it had no fears of what was to come, also because it always perceived the world beautifully.

I believe we all know by now the plots they use in love entertainments: The couples were good, had an argument or a misunderstanding, they grew cold, misunderstandings solved, ending (happy or sad or dead). There is one thing though, that I still search while watching those entertainments nowadays (a lot lesser now)- the moment when they fight for each other to keep it going. It wrenches my heart. It satisfies my emptiness but always, later on, leaves me feeling worse and more emotionally wrecked. Films and dramas are a success because people seek comfort in what they cannot have.

Because of those love entertainments, I came to believe that anyone who claims to love you will stand tall and stand strong for you. But the harsh reality pulled me down. They claimed that it was love, but they didn't binge a little when you were down with emotional difficulties. Why? Because these problems are hard to solve, and that would mean the effort requires time. Time would be an investment. The person who claimed to love just happened to don't think that it was a wise investment to solve your problems. So they left. And that's how we came to a conclusion that love and relationships are so fragile. Is that so?

Relationships are not fragile. Nor is love. They are perceived as so because the intentions and desires to keep them strong were never there at the first place. Or they were there initially, but they were later withdrawn. The mind is the controller, and the body is the toy. Humans are fragile. Because a toy wears out, and a controller breaks down. But we never want to admit our fragility because we are the dominants in a food chain and because we are afraid of seeing the flaws under the light. So we blame it on love and relationships.

Shae