I've heard many stories of many friends who have become lovers. They say in most cases they make the most lasting of relationships. Maybe it is because of how they know each other so well for so long and have gotten close and have learned to familiarize them within their lives. Maybe it is so. But then.... Why do some fail?
I believe that the statistics that has been passed around by the word of mouth does not show the full picture of how people come about and last in a relationship. I don't think there is a winning formula. But I do think, that maybe there is a pattern that we can relate to, in order to make ourselves and our partners happier in the relationship resulting in love, long lasting.
2 strangers can meet then fall in love and have a long lasting and beautiful relationship. So can 2 close friends who have known each other for a long time. I don't think this factor makes for a solid argument on why a relationship would succeed or fail. I believe the main factor is because of who they are and who they have a relationship with.
I asked my lover if she would still be with me if I'm a criminal, involved in vices. Naturally, she said no. I saw a strain on her face when she decided to make an answer. Then she came back with a question, "Then, would you be a nice criminal?". I chuckled, then I realized that she would leave me if such conditions are met but she will not allow it just like that. It shows that she is willing to make efforts to be with me. So I know that I also am working on the same value to make efforts to be with her.
We were strangers before of course. We did not grow up together. We do not have any sort of similar up bringing. We share a very different past but we somehow found to have each other. I feel that this is very beautiful. I'm a realist you see, I expect miracles. But as all great things it happened at a speed unfathomable by our human minds. You can bring in any physical, biological, chemical or metaphysical argument into it, but I'm just gonna shove it aside because I'm in love.
I wish I could debate on this topic but I find it unreasonable. Because if I was to ask to define what love is, I would reply hastily at the top of my voice from every corner of this spherical globe her name, Leong Shay Mei. But on a more logical note, if I was to discuss love, romance, relationships and the relative then I would still give the classic advice. Love, to love and don't expect to be loved. I'm happy, fortunate, blessed today because she chose to love me in return of me loving her. So I now am bound to her. By my choice and free will. In hopes that for now and til the end of my short time on Earth that she will too be bound to me.
Today we celebrate the 3rd month of our interesting get together. Everyday I look at her and it still feels as if I've just met her back at PODS. Her little quirkiness and those beautiful eyes. Her interesting point of views and and her soft squishy hands. Those adorable bangs and her wide framed glasses. She makes me such a happy man. She is my love, my friend.12114
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