Caution: Can you please?

I guess it is true we all have our little things that mirrors a person's pet peeve. I mean, no one is perfect. We have things that we dislike and we have things that people do that we dislike. I don't find that much of an issue. But when emotions are involved, it might inflate into that monster we've learned to dislike so much.

So what do we do about them when they are a part of out loved ones. I believe most of us have people we care dearly for but get seriously ticked off by some of the things they do or the habits they have. It is not uncommon to hear people complaining about their family, friends or partner. Some keep silent but most of them just couldn't hold it in. When shit hits the fan and their whole day sucked they open up without filtering to let out words unpleasant.

So how can we fix this? Could we? Should we?

I believe we change all the time. In little bits. Slowly we change. But it is all in accord to what we aim to strive for. In an old Chinese saying that goes something like "It takes 10 minutes to learn a bad habit, but it takes 10 years to change for a good one." Now if taken literally it is slightly exaggerated. We can change ourselves consciously according to our wants and needs. A smoker can change to be a non smoker for reasons that brings him/her reason to do see. They also can do it without reason but there is smaller chance of that happening. So... We have our little things. We want to live with each other, peacefully. Could we go about making happen? Sure.

I change a bit, You change a bit, we happy. Sounds simple? Never really is. Because what if we have to change but it clashes with our beliefs? What if changing means we are not truly loved for our true selves? There are plenty to think about. The best way is to weigh the scales and compromise. Whats worth changing for whats worth gaining/losing.

So next time when you get yourself into a position of having to changing yourself or asking others to change or to be changed by others. See if you can come to a compromise. But always be cautious. You'll never know when you're gonna hurt someone or be hurt.